I'm a certified life coach with a B.S. in Psychology and I've always been fascinated with people and how they interact with each other.
But the education didn't fully click until I started questioning why I kept attracting abusive relationships.
Then I finally discovered the reason.
After experiencing 2 abusive marriages, I hit a breaking point and I realized I needed to do things differently.
I learned that for me to be able to stand up to bullies and difficult people, I had to stop being a bully to MYSELF.
Growing up I received the message that I was TOO MUCH and I was desperate to prove my worth.
I constantly sought validation outside of myself to try to fill the void in my heart.
By the age of 20, I was desperate to get out of my own head. I couldn't take the pain anymore and I tried to end my life.
I started therapy and got better, but still didn't know how to accept myself and be kind to myself.
After my second divorce, I was face down on the floor sobbing so hard I couldn’t breathe.
How did I end up here again?
I thought being married would make me feel lovable, but I was wrong. Feeling loveable had to come from inside of me.
I thought that my spouse would understand what I wanted and needed because he knew me so well, but I was wrong about that too!
It's nobody else's job to communicate my needs, it's mine!
And until I learn to stop bullying myself, I can't stand up to bullies.
Once I began to learn how to be kind to myself, all of the other tools I had studied for years fell into place.
Communication tools are the key to having a real connection in our relationships, especially with our daughters.
I want my daughter to be confident enough to not end up in an abusive marriage.
And she'll learn that by watching ME.
If you want to feel heard and understood, it's time to SPEAK UP.
"I was having some problems with my marriage and some self-esteem issues. I was frustrated not being able to find a solution. It affected every relationship in my life, I felt so depressed. Annie was so professional, but I also felt that she was empathetic in her listening. Her solutions were logical and made sense to me. Annie was so kind and understanding but she also brought some levity to a situation that needed a bit of a lighter perspective. Her perspective helped everything I was experiencing seem more manageable, and not so overwhelming. Now my marriage is stronger than ever and even though I still have some self-esteem issues, I am getting better every day and I have her tools and tricks to keep me going!"
Are you ready?
Want to stop shoving down your thoughts and feelings? Want to learn to speak in a way that will lead to you feeling heard and understood?
Then go to my work with me page and send me a message!